I was reading my friend Lindsay Bell‘s post, “Social Media Self Confidence,” the other day and it got me thinking. Confidence is a tricky thing. A shortage of confidence can be detrimental and limiting, but an excess of it is dangerous as well.
Confidence can be fleeting. Even the most self-assured among us go through periods of self-doubt. Ever noticed how quickly your confidence can dissipate, often as a result of something entirely insignificant? It’s important to also remember how quickly and easily confidence can be restored by the simplest of gestures.
Last week I was having a difficult day and had convinced myself that nobody was interested in reading my blog. I reluctantly published a post that I had been struggling to write. I received a kind and thoughtful note from someone who had discovered the post through a colleague’s tweet and wanted to let me know that she would be subscribing to my blog. It brightened my day and gave me a much-needed confidence boost. I’m telling you this story as a reminder of the significant impact we can have on others just by making the extra little effort.
Did you recently read a post that you found informative or entertaining, but didn’t share it with others? Did you send a tweet about the post without crediting the author by name (@ Mention) for them to see? Did you read something that really resonated with you/inspired you/enlightened you, but didn’t leave a comment telling the person who wrote it? Not comfortable publicly posting a comment? No problem. You can usually find a “Contact Me” page on someone’s blog that affords you the opportunity to send them a private message that could very well change their outlook on the rest of the day. I’m not referring to the social media luminaries who aren’t lacking for page views or readership interaction (not that they’re immune to struggles with self-confidence). I’m talking about nearly everyone else whose writing might find its way onto your screen somehow.
We’re all guilty of forgetting to do these little things (myself included). The next time you read a post that you find to be valuable, try to remember how agonizing it can be to write and nerve-wracking it is to publish and think about how rewarding it felt the last time someone complimented your work. Then turn around and show the author the same courtesy.
Did something someone wrote or said to you recently improve your confidence level? Please share it with me below in the comments.
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